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Love & Relationships

Physical Attraction is So Weird

I've been so fascinated with physical attraction these days. You know, chemistry, sparks, crushes, and butterflies. That sorta thing. Why do I feel that with one woman I'd consider "cute" but not with one I'd consider "hot." I could even feel tingly after just a single picture and never hearing her voice or meeting her in person to experience her…
Jeff Finley
June 29, 2016
Love & Relationships

My Experience at a Sex Party

This is a bit edgy for me to share. I feel kinda vulnerable because I'm breaking new ground for myself. I have talked about my sexuality before, but not in this kind of detail. It feels like I'm stepping into more of my authentic self. On Wednesday I found myself naked at a sex party making out with a girl I just…
Jeff Finley
May 31, 2016
Love & Relationships

Relationships Are a Reflection of You

I've been reflecting on the short love relationship I recently ended. I learned a lot about how I was not respecting myself, enduring painful triggers because I thought it was "good for me" to help me learn. But it was a few dreams that really gave me some insightful clarity. The first dream was about a female friend of mine that left me feeling ignored…
Jeff Finley
May 23, 2016
Esoteric

Following Your Heart vs Your Mind

How do you know if you're following your heart vs your mind? Or more broadly, following love vs fear. One thing I've noticed more and more lately is that most of my anxiety and fear comes from being too much in my head. And then when I can exist more in my "heart" space, I feel more joyful, purposeful, and…
Jeff Finley
April 12, 2016
Love & Relationships

Sensitive as Fuck: Three Weaknesses Exposed

I've been hanging out more with my new Austin lover and most of the time it's really inspiring and positive. But the connection is so deep and psychic that she sees me and my weaknesses like nobody else. It's kinda scary! She reflects back to me areas that I know are important for me to grow and heal. For example here are…
Jeff Finley
April 4, 2016
Love & Relationships

Is the Fear of “Being Needy” Keeping Us Apart?

One thing I've noticed in spiritual and self-help circles is that being needy is bad. Actually, it's appearing to be needy that's bad. It's a really unattractive quality. It's associated with being "clingy" or "codependent" and it supposedly is a cardinal sin in dating or attracting a lover. I did a Google search on this and all I found were videos…
Jeff Finley
November 11, 2015
Love & RelationshipsPodcast

Uncovering “The Truth” about Sex and Relationships with April Hannah (ep 19)

Two weeks ago I got message from April Hannah, whom you might remember from an older podcast about her Path Documentary Series. She had been listening to some of my recent podcast episodes about dating, love, and relationships and reached out to me to relate some of her own ideas. April is a well read and experienced psychotherapist and holistic mental health…
Jeff Finley
November 6, 2015