EsotericLove & Relationships

Can Spirituality and BDSM Exist Together?

I received a very thoughtful question from one of my readers about spirituality and its relationship with sex, kink, and BDSM. I thought I'd share the exchange (with permission) for others to see. Maybe it can provide some insight. Her Question: Hi Jeff! My name is . I live in . I am a wife and mom and also a…
Jeff Finley
September 15, 2020
Personal Growth

The Magic of Feeling Your Feelings

If there was ever a shortcut to personal/spiritual growth, feeling your feelings is it. But ironically, avoiding our actual feelings is what gets many of us on the personal growth path in the first place. We feel bad for whatever reason, so we start looking for ways to feel better. Once we've identified the external cause of our suffering, we'll…
Jeff Finley
March 30, 2020
Personal Growth

What it’s Like Having a Non-24-Hour Sleep Schedule

I've been going to bed and waking up later and later every day. Eventually I'll be going to bed when the sun comes up and waking up when it's dark out. This will continue until I'm eventually back in sync with the "normal" sleep/wake schedule for a week or two. Then it's back to being nocturnal. It wasn't always this…
Jeff Finley
December 25, 2018
News

Maker/Mistaker Audiobook Released

In 2013 I started a blog called Maker/Mistaker to write about my self development journey. What started with me opening up about my depression led to a mind-blowing journey of self-development, spiritual awakenings, astral projection, and healing. I closed the blog in 2016 to work on other things and moved all my articles to my jefffinley.org site. But here's the…
Jeff Finley
April 1, 2018
Personal Growth

It Feels Like Things are Coming to an End

This past month has been like a 180 from wherever I thought I was going. In my last post, I was talking about becoming a professional cuddler or sexual healer. Well, that's not happening any time soon and I'm not really that interested anymore. It's like the enthusiasm suddenly vanished over the past month and a half. I've found myself much…
Jeff Finley
September 26, 2016
Love & Relationships

Professional Cuddling & Sexual Healing

I've been doing quite a bit of research and experimenting with desire and the guilt that I often carry with it. Two people who have inspired me lately is Marcia B and Betty Martin. I have recently read Richard Unger's book Lifeprints, and determined how my fingerprints relate to my life lessons. (Read this post about my rare palms.) Sure enough, when…
Jeff Finley
July 26, 2016
Love & Relationships

Physical Attraction is So Weird

I've been so fascinated with physical attraction these days. You know, chemistry, sparks, crushes, and butterflies. That sorta thing. Why do I feel that with one woman I'd consider "cute" but not with one I'd consider "hot." I could even feel tingly after just a single picture and never hearing her voice or meeting her in person to experience her…
Jeff Finley
June 29, 2016
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